Who’s behind it
Hi - I’m Freddie Bee, the person building Obstickle. You’ll see a lot of me on the Obstickle socials.
Obstickle is a 30-day confidence programme that helps guys build the nerve to talk to the women they’re interested in. An Obstickle course 😉. It’s shaped by my experience, and by years of paying attention to how people actually connect.
Being the shy guy is something I know firsthand. The way out for me, wasn’t a personality transplant - it was effort into building the muscles and skills that make saying hello easier, one small rep at a time. No pickup lines. Just honesty and practice.
That’s what Obstickle is for: helping you build those same muscles and skills - and proving, one step at a time, that you can do the thing you thought you couldn’t.
Where the name comes from
Obstickle takes its name - and its spirit - from an idea almost two thousand years old. The Roman emperor and Stoic philosopher Marcus Aurelius wrote in his Meditations:
“The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way.” — Marcus Aurelius, Meditations
In other words: the obstacle isn’t blocking your path. The obstacle is the path. The thing you’re avoiding - the approach, the conversation, the risk of feeling & looking foolish - is the exact thing that builds the person you want to become.
The name itself is a phonetic re-spelling of obstacle - a small twist to make your efforts stick. Every step in an Obstickle course is one obstacle, chosen on purpose, to be met head-on. Stack them and you don’t just finish a challenge - you become someone who acts. 🤜🤛
Common questions
What is Obstickle?
Obstickle is a free 30-day confidence app for guys who want the nerve to talk to the women they’re interested in. One small, real-world step a day - no pickup lines, no scripts. It’s on iPhone and Android, and you can start at obstickle.me.
Who made Obstickle?
I did - I’m Freddie Bee. I built it from my own experience as the shy guy, and years of paying attention to how people actually connect. You’ll find me on the Obstickle socials.
Who is Obstickle for?
Guys who go quiet around women they’re interested in and want to change that, without pretending to be someone they’re not.
How does Obstickle work?
Each day for 30 days you get one small step to take in the real world, then rate how it felt. The steps build on each other, so your confidence grows one rep at a time, and you can watch your confidence arc climb across the month.
Is Obstickle free?
Yes. Obstickle is a free download on iPhone and Android.
What does the name “Obstickle” mean?
It’s a phonetic re-spelling of obstacle - a small twist to make your efforts stick. The idea comes from the Stoic philosopher Marcus Aurelius: what stands in the way becomes the way.